Guilty Pleasures

The other day I was talking to someone about some projects I’m working on and was told, “You are lucky to have so much free time for your hobbies.” Stop. The. Bus. Instantly, millions of tiny defence mechanisms started swimming through my veins making me all hot and itchy. I muttered some sort of response…

Good Grief

I’ve been thinking a lot about grief lately. (full disclosure: I’m always thinking a lot about grief). I don’t want to brag, but I’m kind of a grief expert. It’s been a constant presence in our lives for over three years and I’ve studied it from all angles. Well… I’ve studied our own grief. It so…

Summertime and the livin’s easy.

I’m pretty sure that my boyfriend had his son’s summer fully planned (campgrounds booked, summer camps registered, family visits scheduled) in March.  I’m also pretty sure that was when I was first asked to submit my own summer vacation requests at work. Yo guys. It’s still snowing. I can barely make plans to put on…

Three Years…

Dear Hoop, This coming Saturday marks three years since your death. Three years of replaying every last conversation we had. Three years of seeing you through my rearview mirror as you buckled up the kids and said good-bye for the last time. Three years of watching you live and breathe in our kids. Three years…

March is for madness.

  I don’t know about you but I am not at my best in March. All of my strategies to get through the long dark winter have been tossed aside along with the chip wrappers, wine bottles and dirty casserole dishes. I’m tired. I’m hiding an extra layer of fat under my sweat pants and…

i am your willow

i am your willow and i will keep you safe. i will bend. i will adjust. i will surrender: to the process to the storm to myself i will flex to the best of my abilities and i will not break. i will wrap myself around you, and weep with you through joy and grief. i…

And Sew It Goes..

It’s been a cozy weekend and as I am puttering around and mulling over writing a new post, I’m drawn to this older one I wrote just over 2 years ago.  It’s about the practice of mending: fabric and emotions.  It was published in Bunch Family and they even secured amazing photos by Karyn Valino to accompany…

Hurrah! At last I’m 40!

*Preface: As I write this, I feel all of my 40 years. I took off on my bike to find a quiet place to write and my knees are super achy from my (very rare these days) morning run + 3 days of gardening (yes, I was delighted to spend my May long weekend at home playing…

Nits Will Make You Nuts

Oh memories….. of writing this article for Bunch Family… of quality family time on the floor of the bathroom … of destroying each and every evil lice demon I found. And here we go again: different city but same enemy. I haven’t hit my Honey Bunny moment – yet – this time but I’m sure…

Unicorns – by Moxie

On Monday morning, first day of March Break, I was in the bathtub getting ready for the day when Moxie (my 9 year old) came in and sat on the floor beside me. “Mom, I wrote this thing a while ago but just decided that I wanted to share it with you,” In my head…

#BellLetstalk Day (2016)

It’s #BellLetsTalk Day (2016) and instead of writing another full post about how mental health has impacted our family, I’ll let my previous writing speak for itself. Regardless of whether you become involved in this campaign, I do encourage everyone to keep talking about mental health.  I wish I had insisted on more of those…

Santa on Speed Dial

T’was a month before Christmas and all through our home came the whining and arguing from each of my spawn. They fought over books. They fought over toys. I could not hear myself think over their noise noise noise noise! The blowing cold wind had kept us inside until finally I held up my cell phone…